I think that one of the biggest reason why relationships do not work out in the long run is because at one point, one side (or both) stops trying. Before one claims another person as their significant other, they would do anything to make that person happy. They would chase, they would flirt, they would be charming. They would send daily morning and goodnight texts every time you wake up or go to sleep. They would write corny messages and pick up lines just to make sure that there is a smile upon your face. But once they claim you as theirs, all of those things eventually stop. The 5 page texts slowly turn into 1. The constant calls turn into not calling at all. And the lovely endearments turn into daily arguments. In order for a relationship to work, don’t ever stop chasing. Just because the person you want is now consider “yours”, it does not mean they deserve anything less than the time when you’re trying to win them over.
There comes a time when you just have to roll with the punches. And although it may hurt and bruise now, it will heal with time, just as all things do. Every person we meet, whether a positive or negative experience, teaches us something that we needed to learn. If we embrace the lesson, then we grow as a person and hopefully that lesson will carry on with us. Never regret the past, because the past is written in stone and is beneath where you stand now in the present, and just another stepping stone for you to move forward in the future.
Sometimes we can’t save the ones we love. They don’t want to be saved. They want to live in ignorant bliss. So no matter what you may have wanted to do, until they are ready, they can’t change. So, when this happens, and we know they may never be the same one that we loved, we have to learn to let go. We don’t let go because we don’t care. Or because we can’t wait. We let go because they aren’t ready to move forward with what they once had or to make what they once had even better. It’s a sad truth, but even sadder when you are living in that moment.
When you truly love them, you don’t hate them. On the contrary, it saddens you to see them spiraling down. But you can’t save them because they aren’t looking for salvation. They are just watching themselves spin down that drain. The people around them, aren’t looking out for their best interests. You can tell a lot about a person by who they associate with. But until they are ready to open their eyes and wake up, nothing you do can change how they think…so one must LET GO.
And although you may never regain what you once had, remember the lesson that you learned from this experience and apply it to the next one if possible.
No matter how much pain we experience, no matter how many times we get our hearts broken, no matter how many people hurt us, still, there’ll be that one person who’ll love us unconditionally. The one person who’ll make things right and give you everything you deserve. The one who’ll stick by your side and won’t just give you up. The one who’ll make you feel happy that you didn’t gave up on love.